Mommy Blog Lines: Ta[l]king Care
is authored by Jaqueline McLeod Rogers and Fiona Joy Green from the University of Winnipeg, Manitoba, Canada. We are mothers of adult children and also interested in exploring the ethics of mommy blogging. We all make decisions about protecting privacy, consciously or not. We want to offer space for open discussion and reflection on this decision making process.
We first began writing together under a different blog: Fluid Maternities: Gender Fluid Parenting and the Blogosphere
in November of 2011. We saw this as a place to talk about fluid practices needed when parenting adult children. At that time we chose to keep our identities anonymous because we felt identifying ourselves might pose ethical problems in relation to our families. And we were right! Blogging about adult children was fraught with issues related to personal disclosure about our adult kids that breached their privacy. Fiona’s response was to write about her general observations of parenting, mommy bashing, feminist mothering, and issues of identity. Jaque, too, wrote about an increasing general interest in mommy blogging, relational identity, and the work of witnessing and listening to difficult subjects. these blogs are now archived on Fluid Maternities: Gender Fluid Parenting and the Blogosphere
By February 2012 our concern with ethics and blogging about family members, particularly children, was a topic of our blogging and has stayed with us. It inspired us to find out more about what other bloggers are thinking and doing in relation to writing about their kids. We attended the BlogHer12 conference in New York City in July 2012. (for our reflections on BlogHer12 see http://fluidmaternities.wordpress.com/2012/10/24/we-went-to-blogher-and-learned/
Our time at BlogHer12 solidified our commitment to talking about the need to be respectful of the privacy of children (regardless of their age) and to open up the discussion further. To that end, we have changed the name of our blog to Mommy Blog Lines: Ta[l]king Care
and have also committed to being as transparent and as responsible as possible for the words we post in our blog by using our full names and posting an image of ourselves here.
We use the title “Mommy Blog Lines” to extend and play with the concept “motherlines” frequently used in motherhood studies to refer to the relational connections among women and their children through time. The term resonates with our blog project that proposes to use and examine words or “lines” to talk about taking care of parent-child relationships.
We’re hoping this blog serves as a place for communal discussion, where multiple voices can be spoken, listened to, and shared. We know you’re out there making decisions about parenting and telling. We hope to make our blog an interactive place where you can find space to share, reflect and come to terms with your own personal-privacy code which likely changes. You may hear the voices of others who share similar experiences and responses, or voices that offer different perspectives or approaches.
We invite you to check our bi-weekly posts and offer any comments or challenges you care to share.